My daughters were fighting and yes they do fight. And the reason was one had said something and the other one did not like. So the second one started fighting. I called both of them and asked why did you say bad words? She said they were true. But still when you said those words how did you feel, she thought and said I did not get anything and I asked the second one, if it’s true, why are you feeling bad. She started crying saying, i am weak, and she is making me further weak. Then the first one said, I am sorry, I did not think like that. I can train you for this. Now, I asked her, does this make you feel better? Both said yes. Because the first one said, I like myself this way more because I know I have helped her. The second one said, i am good now. She is not laughing at me.
And this happens to all of us. We can never feel better when we pull down someone else. We are all connected. So while doing so, a part of us also goes down. But when we help others to go up, a part of us also goes up. Ego may feel better when we pull someone down. So we need to see, we really want to go up or we just want ego to go up and come down in a whole way.
Well, strong people do not need strength by taking away others strength. Weak people who are threatened and insecure may feel like doing that. rather than pulling someone else down, we need to work on our insecurities. we need to do that internal work, which eliminates the need of doing so. instead we need to fill up ourselves with love and compassion. that truly starts helping us and others.
