They were two sisters but in their upbringing they did not learn love. They learned rivalry. All the time she was sitting with me, she was cursing her sister. She said that it would be better if her sister dies. She infact said that she thought of dying so many times because of her. I asked her, what’s there between two you that you even thought of dying because of her. generally sisters are each others strength. But in this case you guys are cursing each other, infact the situation is so grim that because of this, you want to die. She started crying and said that she has been put down by her sisters so many times. She loved a man and he is her sister’s husband now. I could see her pain. She said that whenever she sees them together, it reminds her of the facts that her sister and her man have cheated her. If someone else would have done this, it would have been easy for her to forgive and forget but because it is her own sister, she is unable to come to rems with. Also, as they are always in her face, it reminds her of all this everytime and whenever she tries to forget, she sees them. because of all this, she is unable to be with any other man too. She was right but few things are above right and wrong. She had no option but to forgive and forget, does not matter how difficult it was. It does not mean what had happened was not wrong but it meant that she would set herself free so that she could live a better life because her life is precious.
So she had to realize few things:
1. She was in love with someone, who did not respect her love. SO was it worth wasting life for such person. If not her sister, he might would have done such thing to her with someone else after getting married, then what would she have done? Would that situation be better? So it is better that it has happened now. She understood this!
2. Was it worth killing herself, over her sister who did not respect her sisterly relationship?
3. There is no right or wrong. What seems wrong might be right for the future. and this exactly happened with her. She got married to someone else a better one after five years. Five years seems like a long time, but when you look at life in longer run it is not especially what it got her.
But before this, she had to forgive herself, her sister and her husband.
She had to respect her life as the most precious gift.
She had to respect every life she had around as the special gift of God’
We all face challenges and we all have to over come them in life with no option granted. Whatever is the problem, divorce, financial, separation, cheating, death of a loved one..no reason is enough to end this life. We need to respect this life, accept it, improve it, make in effort to make it better every day and live it with gratitude. Yes, we all need to be grateful for the biggest gift we have, the most precious gift we have. It gives us an opportunity to do whatever we want and reach to the point where even God cannot reach. Yes, it gives us freedom to choose and then act accordingly.
