A gentleman called up and shared that he was having problems in managing relationships in office. He was unable to create any relationship successfully. People would avoid any kind of conversation with him. I happened to knew couple of more people from his office. So I asked one, what is the problem there? HE made a bad face and said he has an expert comment for everyone’s life. He keeps giving suggestion for everyone’s work and life hoping that everyone has to implement. He is elderly, so people do not say anything on his face but everyone avoids having any conversation with him. Infact one person once told him, you haven’t lived my life, so how can you give suggestions about my life. You do not know what kind of challenges I go through everyday.
I was not surprised. Many people have that problem of trying to set everything right. So I asked him, his relationship with his own family and he shared that he was facing same problem everywhere. I am glad he realized that the problem was with him rather than people around him.
Often we are tempted to help others to be perfect. We give them suggestions (Without them asking us) and then we keep judging for not doing things our way.
We need to take a break and think, what is important here? The relationship or our ego and attitude that I know all and I wonder how can someone have an expert opinion on everyone and everything. Second thing, let’s say, if someone followed your advise and something goes wrong, who would take responsibility of that? My experience, is
People are already doing their best in their lives
Everyone has a right to live life own way
Everyone is allowed to do mistakes and learn from them
Everyone makes an effort to improve their own lives especially if they want it, if they do not want it, anyway any suggest is unwelcomed
We do not know what kind of pressure anyone is going through, so point in judging things
WE have a limited vision and experience, we can never give better advise for anyone’s life
So better focus on creating better relationships rather than trying to improve everyone.
