If you decide to be happy then only you can happy. If you decide to be pleased then only you can be pleased. You are going to a movie, why, to enjoy and to relax, because you think you can relax while watching a movie. Now just imagine, you bump into a person you just do not want to be with during the movie, and some how you just want to escape but unable to do so. All the time your mind is diverted towards that person not the movie and you are unable to enjoy the movie for which you had come. This movie is same, theater is same, but you are not happy any longer, why because earlier you had decided that you will be happy in the movie and you were but later on you decided not to be happy in the presence of a person whom you do not like, so you are not happy. So being happy depended on you not on anything else. You chose to be happy so you were. There are so many examples where we choose to be happy and then we feel we are happy. You had always wanted to go on a holiday to Europe with your wife and you got a free jackpot, where the prize offered you a free trip to Europe for two. You are so excited, you come home, pack your bags and board the flight along with your wife. Nothing can match this excitement. When you are there, you get to know, that the long due promotion has been awarded to one of your team mate as you were not there when the task was culminated. You want to come back as soon as possible and nothing in Europe is attracting you. Come on, wasn’t it your dream trip? Wasn’t this you had always wanted? So what made you so repulsive? So wasn’t it you chose to be happy or not? However, instead of developing negative feelings towards the other person in first example and concentrating on the trip instead of back home promotion in the later one, you could have chosen to be happy. So who decides to be happy, it is you, no one else can make you happy other than yourself.
