One gentleman called up. He said that for last two days, I am very upset. While driving on a red light, someone scratched my new car. I love my car and I am so furious that someone has scratched it. However, I know it is a very small thing and I used to think of myself very tolerant and peaceful. Infact, I was about to get into a fist fight over it. Now the problem is I am unable to control my emotions for my car and I am angry that’s further frustrating me. It is contradicting with my belief system about myself. What should I do? Here are few things:
1. Do not judge your emotions. We have been taught that anger is bad. But it is an emotion. Just accept your emotions. Let it pass. Do not label it good or bad.
2. What if it is not your car. What if it is your friend’s car. ( He said that I would empathize with him that it’s sad but I will not be furious) Exactly! We have attached a very strong sense of belonging to it. Moment you remove MY car from Car, you will be able to see the difference.
He could feel a change in emotions as soon as he accepted that he has a right to feel bad and its a car not his car. This call reminded me of girl who had called up one year back. She said that I want to serve my in laws. But I do not understand why do I have a difference in emotions for my mother and his mother.
The answer is, when you think of her as his mother, and your mother as my mother, the emotions change. With own mother we do have lots of beautiful memories attached and mother is the most giving person. We have received a lot from her. So the difference is obvious But still if we remove my mother and his mother as a label, we would see the difference. Just consider her as a mother who deserves to be respected. Second thing, stop judging her for her action towards you. Just focus on what all you are doing and you can do. She called up after few days and shared that the environment is more peaceful and livable. And since then somehow, her attitude also has changed.
It would happen, the moment we release ego of mine and yours, we release negativity. Once the negativity is released, we stop emitting negative energy towards that person and we start emitting positive energy, which transforms the other person also in a positive way.
So decide what all you would like to do, remove your attachment and continue with peace and love.
