He was having problems in all his relationships. He felt like no one wanted him, no one liked him. he wanted to impress everyone but he always ended up alienating himself. He wondered why?
So when he came to me, and I was listening to him and not speaking because I was listening and trying to understand him completely, he said you are also not talking. You do not like me and that’s why you are not saying anything. Before I could say anything, he started to get up. I asked him why do you think I do not like you? He started thinking and then said because you did not say anything. So should I say anything even before understanding you? Should I not put enough time and energy in listening to you? Shall I form an opinion give it to you? What’s the hurry? It’s your assumption and may be you are doing that with everyone else and hence believing people do not like you. And yes, if you go with that thought process then you would create a drift even before forming a bridge. This way you will keep piling on negative energy and it will definitely influence the other person too.
So what shall we do?
Know that no one has bad intentions
Know that people are good
Know that they are thinking good of you
Know that they are kind and loving
Know that you are already liked
Know that you do not need anyone’s approval
Know that you cannot be liked by everyone equally. Everyone will like you on the basis of their own thought process nad experiences
Do not assume on the behalf of people. It will give you also some mental peace.
Focus your energy on the bigger things in life rather than what others are thinking of you.
Be happy and be loving, do what all you can do and do not worry after that.
