Take your decisions on the basis of what you want rather than what you do not want.

Her parents died and her father’s elder brother adopted her. She grew up with her Uncle and his family. Not to mention, she had her own issues growing up there. When she was 15 she thought that if she would get married she would get a better environment. She agreed to marry the first guy who asked her out. Her aunt was more than happy for her decision. However, she suffered a lot in that marriage and within four years they got divorced. She shared that it was a mistake that she married that guy. She did not know if she wanted him but she knew she did not want to be in that house any more. Which lead to all that.

He was tired of his boss. His boss always treated him very strictly. made him work and did not give him credit when it was due. So he wanted to change job and he did get a new job very soon. he grabbed the job without thinking much as he really wanted to get rid of that boss. But very soon he felt he was stuck in a bigger loop. He lost his timings, he was working in shifts, and it also started affecting health. Not to mention, somehow boss thing remained the same. (We get what we focus upon whether we want that or not). Things got solved when he realized what he was doing. He got a better job after a year when he really focused on what he wanted rather than what he did not want. he sat and thought that what kind of job he wanted and what are the qualities he wanted in his boss. He realized all he was thinking was what he did not want rather than what he really wanted.

We get what we focus upon. Whether we want that or not. Often when we take a decision based on what we do not want in life, we get more of what we do not want which means a bigger problem. The only way to solve things is by clearly having a vision of what we want. We need to know that every problem will eventually solve and we do not have to work on avoiding that. We have to work on solving that or atleast sail through that because sometimes things have own way of solving. But for that, we do not have to take rash decisions.

We need to build a harmony with life and take one step at a time.