Can people be happily married and the answer is yes!
Can people have a happy relationship and the answer is yes.
Does that mean they do not have problems and the answer is no! They have. But they know how to handle it.
So what do we do to create a happy relationship?
Well there are many things but in so many years, what I have learned is what kills a relationship is our expectations from the other person. Sometimes, they are based on our experiences of other relationships, how we are brought up, sometimes from movies, sometimes from what we have in mind as a picture. However, we need to know in any kind of relationship everyone is already doing 200% not even 100%. That is a different thing that the other person’s 100% might be your 50% and that’s why you have more expectation and you feel frustrated.
You need to know few things: if the other person has genuine intentions and you feel it is a genuine relationship, then stay there. You have already got what you needed. Now, reach to the second point, see what more you can do and what the other person is already doing. generally we have the reverse view. What we are doing and what the other person is not doing.
Relationships do not happen. they need to be created, they need to be nurtured with love. We need to put energy into creating them. They demand a lot and will give more than that.
Do not have a long list of expectations, that is sheer ego and a key to destruction because then there will be a fight on what is not done, then the other person will be holding back on what he is already doing and then you will pile up in your heart.
Relationships are precious, they make or break a person. So nurture them with love, do not kill them with expectations. Express your gratitude more often instead of expressing your complaints. You would also want same. Receiving acknowledgement for what you have done. So express your gratitude and you will see the change in everything around you.
