Few days back, a couple came to me fighting blaming each other of changing after marriage. They entered into this beautiful relation 2 years back how ever, now the things have been falling apart. generally what happens is we live with our belief system and what may come its very difficult to break that. When a person eneters into our life, we judge that person on the basis of that belief system and ignore the real person. When we start living with that person or over the period of time, as we had looked at only as per our belief, we had ignored other things in the same person so we feel the person is changed. Second thing, we like whole world as per us. We like ordering everyone and if someone does not follow that we feel anger inside. Whatever we do we do as per our expectations and they change with time. WE keep imposing the burden of those expectations on others and when they are not fulfilled, we feel the person has changed. Instead of expecting, if we start accepting everyone the way that person is without judging that person, we would never find any change. Its all about accepting instead of expecting. The change is inevitable but the problem is we fail to recognise the change inside us as we lose self awareness. So find out whats there inside you, what you want, why do you want what you want and then live your life..be aware of own feelings, that will help you sort out the life outside you.
