A 40 years old lady was cursing herself for the mistakes she had done. Now, those mistakes also included when she trusted others and others had done wrong to her. In that spree, she was also cursing for all the bad things which wee happening around her. She was hurt and she was hurting herself more and more.
In the mean while her son came who was hurt by his friend. She hugged him and loved him so that her son could feel better. I asked her, why did you love him? Why you did not shout at him? Why you did not blame him for the mistake? She could not understand why? She said, if my son is hurt I have to love him more, so that he could feel better. If in the whole world I would shout at him when he is already hurt, who would love him? How would he feel better?
Exactly that’s the point. When someone is hurt, we love him/her so that they can feel better. So when you are hurt, love yourself rather than cursing yourself.
Do not blame yourself for what wrong others have done.
Do not curse yourself. If you have actually done a mistake, tell yourself, it’s ok, I did not do it intentionally. next time I will be careful. If someone else had done, tell yourself, I did not do anything wrong here instead of saying Why did I trust him?
If someone is crying, we try to cheer up that person by making something nice to eat, taking out for icecream etc. Treat yourself nicely too. In the whole world, you deserve your love most. So please do that. Do not hurt who is already hurt. Be compassionate. Be loving.
