She was depressed after divorce. had lost the will to live. She did not want to do anything. She was sitting in a corner all the times wondering what happened or may be not wondering and just lost. When she came to me, she did not even have words to speak. First she had to reach to a stage where she could speak. For 10 days, she wanted to hear it will be fine. We went out to take walks, sit on benches, share some ice creams and biscuits with kids on red lights, sometimes we just sipped chai or coffee or we sat. One day she talked and asked that she had never done anything bad to any one, then why did this happen?
Well may be that’s why it happened. She was just 25. Who knows what lied ahead in life. What if this relationship was not good for her and something better was there. Life has both good and bad. It is upto us what we look at. Without good there is no bad. May be bad comes first. It’s like Ravan was born, that’s why ram had to take birth. Kansa was there, so Krishna was born. So bad came in, and then the good came in. Without having bad experiences, we will never value good experiences too. It is upto us, what we decide to choose to retain.
After a few months, she was smiling again and wanted to move forward in life. She took up a job and started progressing there. She made new friends and started traveling. For choosing a life partner, well, she took a few years. She always said what’s the rush. It was not fear, it’s just she wanted to feel connected with someone. After a few years when I met her again, her smile did not stop. She said that she had never felt happier and better. All she finds is good in everything. Because she took the decision to see good things. It is up to us if we want to appreciate the light or curse the darkness.
We all have some good experiences and bad experiences. They are designed to give us a complete experience of life. Without that, we would never see the true meaning of life. But what remains in our hearts is our decision. We need to see life as a whole rather than a few negative events. There is always some beauty, there is always some light, there is always more to be grateful for, there is always some happiness and there is always lots of love. What are we choosing?
