One lady called up, who said that she was always furious. I asked her, what’s your reason to be so angry and she said that she never had any problems. Others make her angry. First of all I feel wary of people who are in self denial, still if she has come, i am sure Universe has some planning. So I asked her to bring blue dress from her almira and she found one. Then I asked her to bring bangles and she got one. Then some other thing and she did not have. I tried forcing her to get and she started becoming furious saying if she did not have, how she could get, does not matter how much I force her.
Exactly, that’s my point. If you have something, then only you can bring that out. If you do not have something, does not matter how much anyone forces you, you cannot get that. So she has all that anger stored inside her and others are only asking her to get that out. But anger is inside her.
She understood the point. But then why she had so much of anger inside her. So we reached to the root cause of it. She grew up in a big joint family with her grand mother. Who used to manage many servants and daughter in laws. So she picked up all her behavior. If someone was not behaving as per her expectation, her granny would get furious. As everyone was younger than her, so everyone followed her and did not say anything. She also grew up with same attitude. Where everyone had to act as per her.
But then how to reverse it. Instead of focusing on what should be there, she started focusing on whats there. If someone did a mistake, how much effort has already gone into that. So when she started doing so, she started developing compassion. When she started feeling compassionate, people around her were more comfortable and happier. This made her happy too further. Whenever she saw someone smile, it made her smile. earlier mostly she used to get tensed that he might be making fun of her. Infact she started making an effort for everyone’s happiness. This kept on adding on to her happiness.
The key to life is not in fear, anger or control. It is in kindness and happiness and love. Can we open that door?
