A gentleman came who was very depressed in life. He shared that he does not feel connected with anyone in life. After he had spoken his story, in which he felt taht he was treated less than his brother always and his wife also was very controlling, he also shared that how his son totally ignores him.
I realized few things:
1. he was really angry at the world and at everyone else.
2. He did not like himself ( which is a prime need for others to like you)
3. He hated everyone
4. He expected everyone to handle his emotions and people did. But eventually everyone gave up!
5. He had stored everything in his mind.
6. Suppressed anger had become depression and distance from every relationship he had.
To be happy he first had to follow few things:
1. Compile a list of all the things everyone was doing for him and express his gratitude. (He realized that they were doing much more than he had thought and everyone was doing more than he could have done for others).
2. Compile a list of everything he was grateful for.(Again he realized that he had a lot and he was better than many out there)
3. He made a list of all the issues which were bothering him. (He had to sort out small issues and people) We cannot distance from someone for just few issues. In our mind we treat issues and people as one. One small issue makes us have negativity for the person. It can happen that we do not like one issue or thing but that shall not be the ground for not liking the person).
4. He forgave both people and issues. he realized it was the best and easiest thing to clear his head.
Within three months, he felt, lighter, happy and full of energy. he was sleeping better. His relationships also felt better and he felt that people who were cold to him now were more caring. may be he realized they cared. When his negativity resolved, theirs too!
