He was a very big businessman. He was blessed with a son and a wife with whom he had not so great relationship. They both wanted to have great relationship but had given up on it. Reason was that she did not connect well with his family. So he had lots of complaints and he could never like her the way he wanted everything. His entire focus was on that!
When he sat in front of me, he cried for hours and said only bad things about his life. When he started it also included how his parents loved his other siblings more than him and how he had to suffer emotionally because of that.
So I asked, you have all the bad things in life but what about the good things? You have never received anything good in life? He was surprised with the question. What I felt was he had lots of thing. Even with his wife, his things were not that bad as he felt. She did everything she could for him except maintaining a good relationship with his wife. More over, that thing also depends on his family too. If they could not maintain a good relationship with her, how could she that for a very long time? Why the pressure was only on her?
So he started writing what all he had and he realized he had more than he had thought! It was great to hear that. So you have complaint a lot all day for what was wrong, but have you thanked for what was there? NO!
Also, whatever we focus upon, grows stronger in life. So if we focus on problems in life, they will grow and if we focus on blessings they will grow. Life is a packaged deal. You cannot pick and choose. You always will have certain good things and certain struggle areas. It’s upto us, what we want to do with everything we have. If we really want to be happy and grow, we need to see what all good is there. So that we can create something better out of that. If we keep looking at the struggle parts or things which are bad, how can we create something good from them. Good can come out of good. So good can come out of good feelings and thoughts which come from gratitude. And who knows, these struggle areas become our biggest blessings in the future. The teach us, train us, help us to discover who we are. These are the areas which help us to really grow in life.
Have a heart full of gratitude that you are alive, you are good, you have everything. Have a heart full of gratitude for yourself not for others. It’s not for one thing or moment. it’s the attitude. That’s is the first step to create a better life.
