I do not know how many cases I receive where there are differences between husband and wife or the family and the daughter in law because the girl feels, she had been judged too much. Everyone had been critical of her and one day she gave up on all relations. Most of the times, the girl shares that she came to the family hoping to keep everyone happy and be a part of a happy family. But despite of doing everything from morning to evening she always hears bad things about herself and no words of praise. She always fears the mistakes which can happen unintentionally and she always lose her mind over what would her in laws think. Eventually, to retain her peace, she takes an attitude, I do not care and that is when real fall out starts happening. In some cases things go further bad, where she cuts off all the ties and then everyone just keep losing the relationship. that is when she decides I do not acre about the world, I have to take care of my family. But why is this all happening?
Human nature! Trying to see everything perfect, perfect from whose perspective? Perfect as per you and then we try to improve a person, passing on all sorts of comments and then the other poerson tries to make an effort and then next level starts and then the biggest judgment comes, you will never change. So the person decides, why should I change? Do we actually want that?
so what shall we do?
First of all, not to see a person as less than perfect
Then never to try to improve
Then not giving any kind of fear
Then let the person be free
No commentary
Do not feel proud when you feel people are scared of you
Try to support people
Have an introspection of what the situation is and how best you can help
Judging never helps, love always does
No feedback is constructive, its always destructive of relationships, egos, pride, esteem and everything
Do not try to improve, try to love and everything will be fine.
