Be happy when you get an opportunity to accept your mistake in front of children. This is where you bridge the generation gap.

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I have twins and I handle lots of situations. Their fights, sometimes, they complain, sometimes they have lied and sometimes I have judged the situation wrongly, punished the wrong one depending on the past experience. But we do learn from things. I know this thing that, if we do not accept mistakes in front of them, they also would never learn to accept. I keep telling them that, when we speak the truth, we accept our own mistake, we become brave. If we do not speak the truth and we do not accept our mistakes, we become weak. So it was my moment of bravery.

One lied about another and I punished the second one. After a few minutes, I got to know the truth. I said sorry and sorry, again and again, and nothing happened. She was crying further that I punished her for something which she did not do. Finally, I held my ears and I was almost into tears and said sorry. I raised my hands like punishment, and I said, I am really sorry. As soon as I punished myself, she ran to me and said, mama please sleep now with me. Please do not punish yourself, it’s ok. She hugged me and said I love you. After that, she did not have any emotional distress. I looked at her and wondered, how innocent they are. I spanked her and still, she hugged me and wanted me to smile and sleep. And then both the girls share lots of things which made me wonder, where was the generation gap. They are 4, but we were talking like friends.

Yes, we create those walls. We want to be picture perfect in front of them. So they also idealize and treat us like God. But no one is God and that wall shatters. When that shatter, they become rebellious and they do not like the newfound image. So they distance themselves. Why create that wall. Why do we need to be perfect? We just need to be there to raise them in the best possible way. They have happened through us but we do not own them. Let’s be equal and there won’t be any generation gap.

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