After 23 years of marriage, they were getting separated. They had two children. The elder one was 21 years old. They always fought. The husband tried to tell her that she was important to him and she always proved she was equal. Her parents told her that she is no lesser than anyone and she should not get snubbed. If something happened, they will always support her. Finally, she shared that she had to get divorced because she kept feeling lesser in that home. But did anyone try telling you that or said anything? No! Then how do you feel about that? I had to work all day and I had to work along with maids when all the other members were sitting on the sofa. Her husband and father-in-law were managing the office, and the mother-in-law had a knee problem and she could not stand for long. Kids were busy with their own routines. She had to take care of everyone. So she had to be in the kitchen. She had maids to support her, which she called working with the maids. Then what else did you want to do, if you did not want to take care of domestic responsibilities? She had no answer. Did you want to goto the office? No! Then did anyone stop you from starting something of your own? Then did you plan something? Then why there is an ego and by managing your home, you felt you are lesser?
It’s a wrong thought process to even compare and say equality! A relationship is not about comparison. It is about, giving love, having that dedication and commitment to take care of the family and give love to everyone. When we say equality, we have already started comparing. The comparison comes from ego and someday, ego would strike back. It is about living with oneness and acceptance that yes, we all are one. Create a loving and happy relationship.
