She was always changing her house decorations, furniture and everything else. Her husband was tired of this as it would put a dent in his bank balance every time. So how would things happen? She would join one or other friend group, she would goto someone’s house and she would find something better than hers always. She would come back and change things saying, she she needed to have best. If she would go to any public function, she always tried buying new clothes and expensive ones with the thought process that her dress had to be the best and everyone was supposed to praise her. Not to mention, deep down there she suffered from an inferiority complex that she wanted to blend in and she wanted to be at the top fearing, she should not be lesser than anyone else. So finally, she was asked, what was her style and she had no answer.
One lady got married and her husband was working at a good position. They were not living together but his elder brother had a lot to say in how they were living. For everything he would come and suggest which started irritating her eventually. What colour they had to choose, what furniture they had to buy, what electricals, and finally she asked, is it his house or our house. What matters is what we want. But he would feel bad was the big question. He also felt suppressed but he could not say anything out of respect. But finally one day, she decided and bought things without informing and started. She told her husband that instead of feeling bad for whole life, let him feel bad for sometime.
One gentleman wanted everything for his children which his brothers had. They bought an ipad, so he also bought one. Without realizing if they needed one as they were too small. If they went to some place, he also took them, if they joined an activity, he also sent his son there without knowing what his son wanted. Just because his brother’s son had joined, he did that too. EVentually, his son grew up with no confidence, lack of work knowledge and lack of self knowledge as he always thought what his uncle’s son was doing was best for him.
Life is strange. We look at others and we forget to look at self. We compete, we have inferiority complexes, we have superiority complexes but we forget who we are and we forget that others also have to be right to be who they want to be. Create a change. Know who you are, know what others want, give them that space too. Create a free world, create a happy world. In the line of comparison there is no one happy!
