She was going through times. She had an argument with her mother and she left home in hush. She had a job but it did not pay well. So so many times, she survived on food which her friend had bought and many times she lived on breads and pickles. She was blaming her mother for being so mean that she had to leave her home. So first thing i asked her was, does she know what it takes to be a mother and what it takes to raise a child? She did not know. She did not like her mother, she had an argument with her and she left. Did her mother ask to leave? More over, it was her decision, she was suffering, so why to blame anyone else?
Her parents found a nice suitable match for her. They did not have enough money also, still as the boy was in USA, father took his daughter there for some time to see around and see, if she would be able to settle there and she would want to have that life. However, the engagement broke. Now, the relatives were haunting and she started slipping into depression. For her all the problems came up because of her parents as she was going through the pain of broken engagement because of them.
One gentleman started business and it went down. He was in debts. He was blaming his father for not guiding him enough.
She chose a rich partner for herself. However, after few years of marriage, they had losses in business and her husband could never make it again. They were always in debts and asking money here and there. She was constantly cursing her husband for not playing his part.
There could be 1000 situations which we go through everyday. Sometimes they happen because of our own fault or sometimes because of someone else’s faults. Where does it matter. The thing is we are in the situation at that time. So instead of finding the reason, we shall work on finding the solution. It’s like you are standing in the midst of a fire and trying to find out the reason sitting in that instead of thinking how to come out of that or how to douse that. If you will waste time and energy on finding the reason, it will burn you alive and if you will think, how to handle it, you will come out alive and safe. This is what we gotta do in any situation in life.
Do not waste time and energy in blaming someone, cursing someone. Whatever had to happen has happened. Now, think of handling it.
