One small child said that I am scared of dark, what should I do. We were talking about how to be strong and overcome fears. I asked him, why are you scared of dark? He said I feel there is a ghost there and how do you know there is a ghost. He was silent but he said that my mother told me, so many times do not go there or a ghost would come in. (So I feel bad for all the parents who unintentionally train their child on fear of darkness without realizing how damaging it would be for the small mind). So have you seen a ghost? He said no! But I am still scared. Fair enough but how do we remove darkness? He thought for a while and said that we switch on the light. Yes! Darkness is not ghost, it is absence of light. So we do not have to the fight the ghost of darkness, we have to bring in light. Often we spend our energy in fighting darkness and exhaust ourselves. Instead of that if we start spending our energy in bringing more light, darkness would disappear. There is a dark room and you light a small earthen lamp in a corner, the darkness would disappear. It reminded me of an incidence where a lady was working with an organization, where she was trying to fight all the unethical things for many years. Finally she left that company and started her own. Within 6 months, all the honest people had come and joined her. She was fighting old dysfunctional thing she could not but it was very easy to made a better one. But how do we use this everyday:
When you have fear, do not say I am scared, ask yourself how do i bring in strength
When you have problems, do not bang your head in wall for having problems, focus on finding solutions
When people are fighting do not focus on controlling the fight, focus on bringing in more love (Generally everyone has the point that how this fight should end)
Do not focus on fighting illness, focus on health
Do not focus on controlling war, focus on peace
Focus on being calm rather than controlling anger
Focus on happiness rather than why I am sad
Focus on love rather than hatred/jealousy/guilt
Our focus would change the things, our focus towards love and light will make this world a better place.
