She was a part of big joint family and grew with golden spoon. She was living separately from her husband for last 10 years with two children. He wanted a divorce and she did not want to get into any litigation because along with divorce she was afraid that he would ask for the visitation rights too. It was his right. She said that I hate my family and the reason, they did not do anything to get us back together. I asked her that why should they do it and she was shocked. What have you done to save your marriage? You fought with your husband not them. They have always been nice to him ( As per the customs of traditional Hindu system, son in law is always treated, served well above any standards). Despite of your family supporting you and your children financially, instead of being grateful you have been hating them and cursing them? What have you done to save your marriage?
She started crying badly because after so many years she realized that in her life she has wasted 10 years in hating her own family, holding them responsible for her separation rather than doing something about it. She decided to make it work and she started working on many folds and after one year they came together. It was not an easy one year but it was worth.
Often we watch our lives like spectators. We blame others for what has been happening in our lives and they could not do as per our expectations. But in realty we have been watching the match of our lives from the window blaming others for lack of action. there would be lack of action because rest all are supporting players, the main player is missing and watching the match. So how would match be played properly. Our life is dis-balanced when we expect from others rather than doing things ourselves.
When expect, we can never know own strength. So get up and take charge of your life. Your hurt would reduce and strength will increase. Be your own hero!
