One lady went into depression. She said that when she got married, her husband’s family did not treat her right. She had to kill hers elf respect to live peacefully. She felt that she lost her self respect. In another scenario, one gentleman went through divorce and was accused of many false things in the court. His wife wanted more money which he gave but she said many things which were not true and which were hurting him.
So to both of them (Separately), I told this story! There was a boy and he wanted to become a disciple under one famous guru in the city. He requested a lot and the guru told him that you have to go through a test. The boy was so ready for that. So the guru gave him one shiny rock and asked him to get the correct price but not to sell. The guru said that if he would get the right price then the boy would get admission under him. The boy left with the rock. He first met a farmer and farmer looked at the rock, touched it and said I will give you some wheat grains and that’s all I can. Then he met a fruit vendor and he offered some fruits. He felt little strength now because earlier he felt that just to send him away the guru had given him a futile test. So now he went to a jeweler. The jeweler thought that the rock had lots of shine and can be made into some fine jewelry. So he offered some gold coins in return. Now, the boy felt very strong in selling that. He felt that every time, he was getting a better price. So he went to the king. The king whispered with his court members and offered his half kingdom. Now, the boy was on cloud nine. He comes back to the guru and tells him all. The guru starts laughing and tells him that this is Paras! (The rock which can turn anything into gold when we touch). No one can buy it. But it can buy the luxury of the whole world.
The guru continued talking. You see my son, everyone put a value on it as per their own capacity but not as per it’s capacity. Similarly, people in life will value you as per their capacity not as per yours.
We need to remember this always. We can not let others put a value on our self respect. It is us who will define it. It depends on how we treat ourselves. It depends on what we think of ourselves. It depends on how we treat others. It depends on our own deeds. But others cannot define our self respect. It we would let them do it, it would always be going down. Someone with lot of ego will always crush it badly. And the one which will get crushed will be ego not respect. So know your worth and treat yourself rightly.
