Yesterday I had a workshop with a group of 100 people. It was a beautiful experience. While doing the workshop I brushed on the topic of relationships where I explained thatw e expect 100 things from different people in life and we look at the few things which are not done instead of 90 things which are done. This way we develop resentment in our relationships ultimately which affects the beauty of sharing. One gentleman came to me and told me he should have brought his wife and she should have listened to this and then i explained him, he is again doing same mistake as he is looking at what his wife is not doing instead of what she is doing. For ourselves we can become happier in any relationship with two things, by looking at what all the other person has been doing and what minimum we can expect. When you expect, you become vulnerable and you give power to the other person. When those expectations are not met, you get hurt because you feel from who else I would expect. You shift your locus of control to someone else. Ofcourse when someone else is pulling your strings you cannot be happy in life. In life if you want to feel strong expect only from yourself and do what all best you can do. Nothing in life would hurt you after that. You get hurt because your expectations are not met. Instead of expecting start filling up your relationship with love. We just try to take from the relationship and keep making it empty. Instead of that start filling up and then you would see how rich your life is.
