My father called me up and asked me to speak to his friend and I did not want to do it. I said I will not call her and he asked the reason and I told him because I do not want to because that is the only reason I had and he was shocked that how could I say that. I said I cannot give you any other reason if this is the main one. Few days back one couple came to me who use to fight on trivial issues. He gave me another example, he said he comes back from office and his wife would start nagging him to go out and he would be too tired to do that. After digging further into their discussion we realised that for anything she wanted to do, she would give 10 justifications to prove that she is right to demand and she would never say that this is what I want and if he did not want anything he would give 10 reasons to prove that why that thing shall not be done instead of simply saying he did not want and for every small thing they will have multiple arguments and counter arguments. This is not the case of one couple, this happens in any relation be it friends or parents or spouse.
Why do we have to create justification for one simple thing which is I want to do or I do not want to do? What is holding us back, first thing is ego and second is we assume that second person has to understand without my words that I want this and this is the right thing. Why do we make our lives so complicated? Life is so simple, we complicate things unnecessarily and keep thinking wasting our precious energy. So many times I just sit and think nothing and many people ask me what are you thinking and I just reply I have nothing to think about, why do we have to keep thinking all the time. Just make your life simple and be at peace. Life is simple, you have complicated with unnecessary justifications. Just be yourself and be happy.
