One 20 years old wanted to start a business but his family wanted him to do job. His father was in job too. Infact in their entire family there was no one who was doing business. Everyone was into job. However he was hard bent on the fact that he would be starting his own business. But to keep his father’s heat he took up a job and he kept changing his jobs. He would get frustrated in evey job very soon. When he came to me I gave him a Situation. He is going for a movie with his girlfriend. In the last minute there is a change in plan. His mom sends a girl of her choice along. Now the movie which was supposed to be fun becomes tortuous. Same is our lives. If we spend it doing what we like it becomes fun. If we live it as per others it becomes torturous. Now let’s take this situation forward. You can get married to a girl of your choice or your mom’s Choice. If you choose to be the girl of your choice you are happy and eventually everyone else would be happy too. Because ultimately parents want to see their children happy. But if you choose to get married as per your mother for the moment she would be hapy. Bit in longer run you would feel frustrated. So you would be unhappy. If you are unhappy then you can’t have a strong relationship. So eventually there would be a chaos. Now that would make everyone unhappy in the longer run. So what should be your decision? He understood. Spending life living others expectations and becoming what others want is like spending life with a girl with whom you don’t want. So should I stop worrying about my parents? You should care and you must. But don’t compromise. There is a difference. When we are happy we can keep everyone happy too because this is what we have. But when we are not happy inside we cannot give happiness to anyone else too because we don’t have that. So be who you are so that you can better take care of eveyone else too. Or else when you would be feeling bad you would blame and find reasons in others for same which creates bigger problems in relationships too. He started his own business and eventually after some time he became a renowned businessman in his field. His passion for business was evident and this is who he was.
Your life is your responsibly. Things happen either because of your action or inaction. Instead of blaming others and trying to fulfil others expectations set yourself free. You don’t have to justify for being who you are because this is how you are designed by God. So that makes everyone of us a master piece. Do not damage that master piece. No apologies, no regrets, no blaming…. set yourself free, hold a loving heart a live your life the way you would like it to be. You are free to be you. Once you gain your freedom you will be able to give same to others too. Be free live free.
