She was always worried, what others are thinking of her. Her husband was tired of her thought process and she was always tensed. She always lived by what next she had to do, so that everyone could talk about her. She did everything to gain good words. But at what cost? She never cared about her children and what they thought. She never cared about her husband and her relationship with him. And her son was 15 years old, he one day threw a vase on her face (unintentionally, saying she was the most damaged person in this world).
One gentleman, always lived by others standards. He always thought that what others are saying is more important. For everything, he thought that what would others say. So he started having problems with his wife as she could not live by that. She asked him, if it was important what she thought and he had no answer and after 10 years of marriage, she left him with children. He was all alone and still never worked on his marriage. he always worked on how he could prove that his wife was wrong and he was right.
So when they came for coaching, I asked them, let’s say, all these people think, that you are right then? DOes it solve the situation in your life? Do you feel peaceful? What do you think of yourself genuinely? We can lie to everyone, we can create any picture but deep down we know what is the truth. So we really need to think, what we do and what we feel. What we have done. If we start thinking from the perspective of how we are leading our lives, we can be more peaceful. Then we can love ourselves more. If our evaluation is based on what others are thinking, we would never be able to accept who we are because it would keep shifting.
The thought process of living by what others are thinking can goto extremes and can even break homes. we need to be aware of this and keep a check. The more peaceful thought process is what we are thinking.
