She was very angry. I asked her, why are you angry. My son just won’t listen to me, I had to shout at him. She said few things and then kept down the phone. She did not want to ask anything. She just wanted to vent out. She called up couple of more times, whenever she shouted at someone. Finally, I asked her one day, why did you have to shout? Especially when he did not respond or the cab driver got further mad at you or your husband did not talk to you for three days after that. Whatever you had to say, can you say it kindly?
She wondered and then asked, how is it possible? I told her simply to be kind. Why do we need to control others. If they are not doing anything harmful, let them do. You can be kind and loving. Next time, she met a beggar while driving, she was about to shout at him buy then she decided to be kind. She spoke to him with respect and asked, why was he begging. HE started crying with this question and told her his daughter was sick, and then she had died. HE had met an accident and since then he became a beggar. HE could not do anything else, mentally and physically. Though people shout at him but this is what he could do for a living. She wondered what kind of pain, he must be going through. She did not give him any penny, but he blessed her, and she could feel that. She felt so peaceful and liked herself more. She started the same thing with everyone. If someone was not listening, she would ask them why were they not listening. She realized that with this change she was always peaceful, people were more responsive, and she liked herself more. She loved herself now. Now, she was not worried about others hating her. (Yes, that had become her prime concern). She liked herself more and that was enough. But, it also made others like her too. She wondered how can be changed with love.
Treat everyone with love. Be kind to everyone. We will be more peaceful and we will love the new version of ourselves.
