I was sitting in a meeting, and it was to solve a problem in the office. It was a typical blame game scenario. And after hearing them out for an hour, when it was my turn, I asked, what are you doing to solve it. Seems like that everyone has spent a lot of time in finding out, what the other person has done and has no idea, what is the responsibility that is lying with everyone. If we can spend sometime on what I could do and what I can do right now, the situation will solve and then we would not need to play the blame game. The next one hour was spent in finding out, what could be done by each individual and they could find a solution.
She was an old friend and had met her after a long time. May be after years. Initially it was all greetings and then it turned into what was wrong in everyone’s life. After sometime, I asked her, what was happening in her life and how she was doing and she was reluctant. However, she shared and then I told her, can we spend sometime in discussing, how things can be sorted in your life rather than what all is wrong in everyone else’s life.
It’s easy to point fingers but that does not help anyone. Everyone has to face own problems and solve them. Someone else judgement will only harm the situation, it will never help anyone. However, if we can spend sometime, reflecting upon, without judging, what all is done, what we can do and what we have done, how we can improve, whether it’s a professional side or a personal side, it will start making a positive difference in everyone’s life. Besides this, bitching is bad, and it creates negativity in our own minds too. It’s like pulling someone else’s dirt in own life!
