So my four years old was fighting with her father and my husband. Sometimes I enjoy their petty fights and sometimes I wonder at their egos. At 11 pm, they both were fighting. She had bitten him and he was lightly slapping her and then she started crying. And then she was screaming, you started the fight. He was defending she started the fight. So I pulled her closer to me and hugged her. That was the moment of kindness. I asked her, did you bit him and she denied. Then asked again. I had to pull in all my patience and kept asking her with so much love. So finally I brought out my Brahamastra. I said, see I always say you are like my small Krishna, but Krishna was very kind and nice. He always loved his father and friends. So what would Krishna do? She thought for a while and said, yes I bit him. Now, the next level started with peace. I asked her, why did you bit him? By this time my husband was peaceful, Maybe because he was proven right but I asked her again and again and I had to ask her at least 20 times. So finally, she said that I was sleepy, he was tickling me and it was irritating me, so I bit him. The moment she shared she was peaceful. They both were peaceful and hugging each other after that. It made me wonder can we solve all the arguments by communicating and by being patient. They both were proven right and they both had done something wrong. I focused on creating peace and peace came in the end. Peace came with kindness and patience.
Yes, peace comes with love, kindness and patience. We need to work to achieve peace. Most of the arguments are done to achieve ego. If we start working towards peace, we will start attaining peace. It reminded me of a couple, who were constantly arguing in front of me. After 2 hours of argument, I asked them, what do you want to prove? She said that I want peace. And can you gain peace like this? They both were quiet. So first be peaceful and do not blame. Share all your problems rather than blames. They both shared and they both accepted a few things that could be worked upon immediately. They were peaceful, after they started thinking about peace.
Peace comes when you work for peace. It comes with kindness, not ego. Then she started crying again. I asked her, why are you crying. She shared that he was never kind to her. He needs to understand her situation too. How everything was expected from her without one word of love and appreciation. She shared that her domestic help receives more words of kindness from him than she was receiving. He said that it is to keep her settled and then who said that his wife did not need those kind words? Why did he think that she needed arguments all the time?
Helping others is kindness. Helping poor is kindness. Speaking kind words is kindness. Doing what all you can is kindness. But this kindness is required in every relationship and whatever we do. So be kind in everyday things. Be kind and peaceful in every relationship.
