A tree cannot hold on to the dried leaves, does not matter how beautiful they are or how painful it is to let them go and fall. For a tree to grow and survive, it is imperative that the old leaves fall and the new ones grow.
Similarly, we all have pain and emotions and we need to let go of them, for us to grow, become better and pain free. Who wants to be in pain? No one wants to be in pain but people are unable to release pain. They do not like to let go of the painful experiences and the people who have hurt them.
What is the process? There is no process. We can follow many things but sometimes, simply get up and move on. Decide to focus on better things. And why we are not doing this? We like those stories. We like to tell those stories how we have been hurt, how others have treated us, and we take strength from those stories. Despite those things how I have survived. Where ever we sit, we like to talk about those stories and our mind is so intelligent, whatever we dwell upon, it will add to that. So every time, we process that experience again in life, the story will become bigger. One lady used to tell, how badly her in laws treated her and when her friend told her, own stories, next time the story was bigger because a few of the experiences she had forgotten buit were bad, so they became a part of the ladie’s story for the next time onwards. One gentleman was divorced for seventeen years and he had to go through a painful process of harassment. He was unable to focus on work and his health had fallen. I asked him, even if it was, it was a long time age, just move on. Get up and do something better with your time. And he said, why should I? And He shared honestly, if I do not have this pain, I have nothing else.
Exactly! Find something, which is worth thriving for not the pain. it will make you bitter, negative, unhealthy and everything else which you shouldn’t be. Focus on what you can do with your life rather than what others or life did to you. We all go through pain, and things happen to everyone, thats how we all learn but if we hold on to that, we will miss the point of learning and growing from that. So let go of the pain and set yourself free, so that healing can happen, growth can happen.
