After 10 years of marriage and 2 children, she got into an affair with her husband’s best friend. For Fifteen days they kept fighting, still her husband did not want to end the marriage. Something inside him wanted her to stay if she wanted to stay. After all the fights, abuses and curses, he sat down and started crying. he held her hand and asked her that why did she have to do this. He had done everything for her. Whatever he earned in business it was on her name, she had all the freedom to do anything, be anywhere. But then why did she have to do this? She gave her reasons and top was lack of love. He thought he was giving her everything but in reality she wanted time from him. They were staying with family and his family had made her life difficult always, expecting more, taunting more and she kept suffering silently. She tried sharing many times but he snapped always. In all such moments, one day she started sharing things with his friend and that is how he started. She needed support and his friend gave at that time. He went out for a while and came back. After that he accepted that he had ignored her and he would want to let go off everything. She asked him what happened and he said that, first time he is trying to think everything from her perspective and he is filled up with more and more love for her. He could understand her only when he felt the compassion and love rather than thinking from his mind.
All the time we have lots of things in mind. Our thought process is influenced by many factors like TV, friends, past experiences, upbringing etc. If someone comes and says something, we start thinking differently. But heart thinks only of love. It reaches to heart and knows truth. True compassion comes from heart. If we really want our relationships to work, we need to feel them, understand them rather than using mind. I remember, A gentleman used to shout at his wife a lot. When finally she made an effort to understand him, she realized he was in pain as he had an abusive child hood. Till the time, she kept thinking from mind, she was full of anger. But when she made an effort to understand with love, she was further full of love for him.
So for your loved ones, feel from heart, understand them rather than thinking all the time.
