After 15 years of marriage and at the age of 40, he said that no one loves me, no one cares for me. My children do not love me, my wife does not love me, all they want is money from me. My business is not doing well and I feel pressure from everywhere. Sometimes I wonder, why am I alive! That’s it! That’s the first thought triggering the thoughts of suicide.
I asked him, what do you want from yourself and for yourself? Do you love yourself? Why do you have to depend on destiny for yourself? I do not know about others lives and lives of the people you are comparing with. The point here is, do you appreciate yourself before others do it? All the time you have been working, others talk bad and even you talk bad about yourself, then definitely you would feel why am I alive with no words of love from any direction. You have lost yourself. It’s like a friend but you only used him for everything but never turned around and said hello!. e would definitely feel bad and would not like to be around.
He understood the point and he did few things:
He sat down and wrote what all he was doing
What all he had
What all he had done
Also what all he wanted
How he wanted his relationships to be
He was craving for one but he had never sat and written down that I want love in my relationships. Infact he had written that I want a wife who is appreciated by everyone and this is exactly what was happening. Everyone was appreciating her and he could not explain to anyone that their relationship was not working and why?
Things started changing when he got a clear picture of his life.
Now it was is everyday ritual to talk to himself, sort out his mind, get rid of what he did not want and focus on what he wanted.
We all want love, we all want appreciation but are we doing that? We need to spend sometime with self so that the little angel sitting inside is not lost!
