She was pulling her eight years old daughter from the hair. The daughter called up her father and the father asked the mother what are you doing and why are you doing? The lady replied, whole day, she keeps doing something which she should not have. I cannot handle so much. The father looked at the girl and she said I asked for the apple which mamma had given to the younger brother and mamma said, he needed more nutrition. (This family was well off enough). The father asked, she was not asking for a bad thing. She asked for an apple. You could have ordered more. The lady made a bad face and left. The girl cried and said that mamma does not like me. The father also knew that since the time their son was born, the mother had stopped caring for her daughter.
In another incident, a lady agreed to teach 5 children in an orphanage. She wanted to prove to her husband that she could do something nice. But she could not. Handling kids just to satisfy ego is different and loving them is different. She got frustrated and she started hitting them. The warden saw it and complaint about it. The lady started crying and said that, it’s so frustrating. The warden told her, that it’s about loving them first. When you love kids, they will love you back, even if you scold them a little. But first they have to be loved.
I met another lady, When I went to her house, four children were sitting at the dining table. Two looked little less fortunate, but two were hers. They were all eating the same food in the same plates, eating on the same table. I asked her, who are these two children and she replied with a pride in her eyes, they are our guards daughters and sometimes they come to play here.
Yes, all the children and everyone else should be treated equally.
I have two children and raising twins had been tiring. Initial one year, we could not sleep almost for the. entire day. We took a nap, where ever we sat. They had to be tended whole night. They still create a lot of mess and they take up the whole day. But when I am tired, they come and hug me and say that mamma, will our hug give you some energy? It shall make you super energetic and yes, it cheers me up. When I look into their innocent eyes, when they are bringing they house down, I realize, this what I would have wanted to do, when I was of their age.
Yes, its tiring but it’s satisfying. Yes, its whole day but its meaningful.
Whether it’s your child or someone else’s child, love them, do not discriminate, do not lay the foundation of discrimination. raise them with love and raise them with gratitude. They should not feel they are a burden on you. They should always feel, they are needed and then they would give back same love to the world.
