So one lady called up and asked how she could protect her relationship with her husband. Her relationship was falling apart and she felt that someone was doing something on her relationship and that’s why it was falling apart. They had been married only for two years.
So I asked her, have you been doing all you can to resurrect your relationship? She asked what do you mean? I asked again the same thing. I asked her, what should you do as a wife to have a wonderful relationship? She said I do not know. So she shared that she had been blaming her husband’s family for not behaving in a good manner with her. She wanted her husband to take her out for dinner every day. She wanted his family not to interfere in their lives. When her husband asked to shift out, she denied because she was scared of managing the home. So there were always fights. She was not contributing her efforts and then she was blaming her in-laws for creating a rift. I asked her if she was genuine and then she accepted she was not.
But the next question came in. What about him?
Look at him when you have put ina ll your efforts. We can look at one side generally. First, you start correcting your side, maybe you would realize that it is already fine or it has also started improving. But at least start with your efforts.
The answer is simple. Do not blame others for your situation before you have put in all your efforts.
