I love my girls and I learn so much from them every day. And this Covid situation has created lots of unprecedented behavior issues. Kids are always at home and they are fighting more. Oh, and yes they do fight. They are four. I am not justifying but I deal with it every day.
So One was playing and the other one got irritated and did something which looked innocent, but she ended up hurting the other one. So I asked her, did you know when you jumped, it would hurt her a lot. But mamma she was doing this and that and I kept asking my question. Did you know or not that it would hurt her. So finally she had to accept and I told her, there is never a justification for something wrong we have done especially when we know it is going to hurt someone else. We may not realize, but we know it when it’s hurting someone. She really felt sorry and said, mamma I will never repeat this.
Often in life we do wrong things, may lie, we may hurt others, we may intentionally do something whichw e shall not do or we keep quiet whenw e shall do the right thing which is as bad as doing the wrong thing and there is no justification of all such things.
We justify to cover up guilt so that we may prove ourselves innocent in own mind but we are not. Deep down we know. So the question came was, if it is helping us in handling guilt why not? because living with guilt is bad. yes living with guilt is bad but covering up things is further bad. It will eventually blur our sense of right and wrong which is gifted to us. We may do wrong things and eventually we may not know what wrong we have done. Which is a very dangerous state.
So stop justifying things which we know are wrong. Which may have been done by our loved ones or by us. Start doing the right things. It is a sure way to have a peaceful mind.
