One 16 years old
boy went through a break up. His girlfriend had cheated on him for a richer guy
in college. He started hating all the girls since then. He started believing that
all the girls are same and they want money. He shifted his focus to earning
money in life. He earned lots of money and was able to establish own industry,
however he could not get married even by the age of 42. He was running a
conflict in his mind always. He wanted to get married as he had started longing
for a partner in life but he hated women. His hatred was more than his longing for
a partner. Finally he decided to take an action but how it had to be resolved.
He started working on himself and had to release the hatred for women. Once he
was able to do so, he could get married easily. There are few things which he
learned:
boy went through a break up. His girlfriend had cheated on him for a richer guy
in college. He started hating all the girls since then. He started believing that
all the girls are same and they want money. He shifted his focus to earning
money in life. He earned lots of money and was able to establish own industry,
however he could not get married even by the age of 42. He was running a
conflict in his mind always. He wanted to get married as he had started longing
for a partner in life but he hated women. His hatred was more than his longing for
a partner. Finally he decided to take an action but how it had to be resolved.
He started working on himself and had to release the hatred for women. Once he
was able to do so, he could get married easily. There are few things which he
learned:
The incidence
happened some 25 years back (We all carry past painful experiences but he was
repeating that almost every day)
happened some 25 years back (We all carry past painful experiences but he was
repeating that almost every day)
The pain was
over long back, but he was carrying hatred, anger and a feeling of lacking
something within for all these years
over long back, but he was carrying hatred, anger and a feeling of lacking
something within for all these years
Life did pricked
some thorns in his heart but he did not allow them to be taken out. He made
sure that he kept pushing them further inside (We all like to hurt self again
and again)
some thorns in his heart but he did not allow them to be taken out. He made
sure that he kept pushing them further inside (We all like to hurt self again
and again)
Once he decided
to choose a better life and love, he had no option but to leave all these
things behind.
to choose a better life and love, he had no option but to leave all these
things behind.
We cannot create
a better life on the foundation of painful emotions. Life offers us everything,
love, happiness, hatred, anger. These different emotions may come from
different people or same people. But it does not happen that we get only pain
or only love. It is upto us, what we want to retain and how we want to create
life after that. If we would keep repeating pain, we would give more pain. It
is in our mind. If we keep repeating love, we would create love, it is also in
our mind. Now we have to sit and think, what we want to repeat. Surely, if we
want to be happy, then we cannot keep repeating pain. We need to keep repeating
happiness and love. We need to keep repeating gratitude and kindness. We need
to keep repeating forgiveness. How we want to live our life is upto us not on
others and it is all in mind. So take charge and create a happy life.
a better life on the foundation of painful emotions. Life offers us everything,
love, happiness, hatred, anger. These different emotions may come from
different people or same people. But it does not happen that we get only pain
or only love. It is upto us, what we want to retain and how we want to create
life after that. If we would keep repeating pain, we would give more pain. It
is in our mind. If we keep repeating love, we would create love, it is also in
our mind. Now we have to sit and think, what we want to repeat. Surely, if we
want to be happy, then we cannot keep repeating pain. We need to keep repeating
happiness and love. We need to keep repeating gratitude and kindness. We need
to keep repeating forgiveness. How we want to live our life is upto us not on
others and it is all in mind. So take charge and create a happy life.
Practice love,
practice gratitude, practice forgiveness. If you do not know for whom and for
what, simply say, I love, I am grateful, I am happy, I forgive and I am
peaceful.
practice gratitude, practice forgiveness. If you do not know for whom and for
what, simply say, I love, I am grateful, I am happy, I forgive and I am
peaceful.
