One 21 years old boy who was preparing for competitive exams asked, what if I would not get selected. My father mortgaged our home to pay my fee.
One gentleman took a huge loan from bank to start his new business and he always had fears in mind that what if he would be unable to pay monthly installments.
One girl was getting married and she had seen many failed marriage around her. She always had fears, what if it would fail? What if she would have a divorce.
One gentleman who was working for 20 years and had been a start performer always had fears what if he would lose his job one day.
Such kind of fears are not very uncommon. I would not say everyone has them but many have.
Often fears come from what have been told to us while growing up or the stories which we see around or the kind of pressures we have r our experiences in various forms.
Like in first scenario the boy was always told by his father that he has to get selected anyhow. EVen if it means he has to give his life for that.
In second scenario, the girl’s mother was a divorcee and she had always heard how bad marriages can be.
In third scenario, the gentleman had seen his father failing in business and had experienced very bad days due to shortage of money. He was scared of that experience.
In the last one, while going to school, his father always tried putting fear of job in him saying you must study hard or else you wont get a good job. So he grew up with the fear of having no job.
So first of all, it’s a request to all the parents do not try to inculcate any kind of fear in your child. They say some fear is good but no fear is good! It’s a negative feeling.
Now, we all must understand the question we ask, we get the answer. So if you ask what if I fail, you would have events which would tell you, so this would happen if you fail. Which means a failure!
Second thing, how can you create success if if you are thinking of failure. You get what you focus upon. So focus on success.
Third thing, Your mind replicates the current state into reality. So if you live into the future success mode right now, your mind would replicate that or other wise.
So what should we do?
Design a perfect day in life right now and see it. Whatever we see, it gets created.
Design your perfect life.
Give time to your mind to create a perfect life.
It is like without setting a program in your computer, you cannot expect it to serve you perfectly. First the program has to be in order for life to be in order.
