Few days back, went to meet a family. They have a son and a daughter. Both of them looked very peaceful and happy. They were talking about their targets and many things like that. Finally, I asked the family, how they have raised their children? Their children looked very happy and focused. The lady smiled and said that I never compared my children with anyone else. Even if someone else tried doing, I always told them, what matters is what you have and what you can do.
It is the comparison of what others have which triggers our ego and makes us restless. It lifts our faith in what we can do. Because our focus shifts to what we do not have rather than what we have. It also shifts to what others have. In a way, we are strengthening what others have and also increasing what we do not have.
Second thing is we trained them to focus on what they believe in rather than what others are saying. So when they were small, and someone said a little bad word to them and they got little worried, so we told them to ignore and gave them the opposite of that word. If someone said you are a bad boy, so we reminded them of how they believed one day back that they are good.
Now when they have grown up, they see themselves as good and they focus on what they have. They feel grateful and also they have more energy on what more they can have which means goals. We have trained to see inside rather then setting their goals from outside. Like if they achieved, so you shall also achieve.
Can we start implementing that?
