A lady came over. She was facing many problems in life. Her health was going down the hill. She had already left the job and now she was having problems with her children. She shared that her husband was not even there in priority list. So it started?
She started crying and shared that she got married some 20 years back and at that time, she was such a happy person. But bitter experiences of life have made her bitter too. Few things I realized:
- She was not a bad person. She was a good human being.
- She did not have bad intentions for anyone.
- But she was unable to let go.
- She was very calculative in her approach.
- She focused too much on trying to make everything perfect.
- She did not desire negative for others but she had lots of anger inside her.
- Her health suffered because of her anger.
She wanted to have a better health. She wanted to have a better money flow and she wanted to improve her relationships with people.
So the next question was, how it all started falling apart. She shared her story about the joint family and all the things which disturbed her. But where was she in the story? It was all about others. How did she feel in all that? She wondered what did that mean? If someone was doing bad, what did she feel in that? She felt angry. Then again angry and that is how anger piled up. She worked on others but she never thought of working on herself. So she had to start working on her thought process. Now in that first step was to understand her own emotions and thoughts. Again she realized was that she was holding onto past a lot. She was spending too much time on analyzing others. While she was doing that she realized she did not have time to think about herself and that is why she was feeling so lost and feeling bad about herself. So she started changing her thought process from what others have done to what she could do. Second thing, how she could add more love into her life and body rather than what bad others have done.
In two months she realized that her life was much better. She felt good about herself and she felt more in control. Now her focus was not what wrong others have done. It was what good she could do. She was happier with what she could do. (Others behavior was never in her control). When she was happier, her health was also better. She also started own small business which helped her in gaining confidence again. again it was like what she could do rather than what others are doing.
She realized that more she worked on improving her thought process, better she was becoming and her life was improving.
We all need to focus on self rather than others. We all need to focus on improving own behavior. We all need to focus on how more we can love. How more we can help. More we would focus on what we say, do and feel, better we would be. A positive thought process has the power to turn around the entire life.
