Met two mothers. They both had sons now working in a similar company with similar pay packages. One’s son respected her a lot and other’s son never listened to her. They both were from a similar middle-class background. They both were in jobs and they both earned similar salaries. Both kids got a similar environment in terms of money and amenities. So while talking to them I got to know that the one who had a good relationship with her son worked hard on the relationship. She never took it for granted. Whatever she did for her son, she did with love and she never saw something as an obligation. But the other one felt many times she was forced to do things. If she had more servants or if she had more money and similar thoughts. So when their children grew up, they returned similar emotions. The one who took care of her son with gratitude had a very loving relationship and he always took it as a blessing that his mother was around. The one who was not happy to take care of her son (Still had to do it all), her son also had similar feelings to return. Whatever he did, he did as an obligation. For her, he was forced in a situation where he had to take care of her.
Both gave similar amenities. Both did similar things for their sons. But both gave different emotions. What they invested and what brought return was their emotions.
So whatever is the relationship, keep your emotions genuine. That will create the foundation of your relationship. Whether it is with your children, parents, servants, colleagues, friends or anyone. Your loving emotions will create loving relationships.
