He was always angry and his family was scared of him. They were always under the fear that he would burst on them anytime. He shared that he was also under the same fear. He never wanted to shout at anyone. But he ended up shouting. He could not control whenever someone did not listen to him even a small child, and he also did not like when something was not happening as per him or someone did a small mistake. He realized that those things had to be ignored in a family, but he could not.
First we had to know, from where was this anger originated? Was it because of something small happening around him or something inside him. But then, something which was around him was happening for everyone. They were not angry. So it means, it had to be something inside him. It was about how he was processing his emotions. So when something happened, he told himself, people are stupid. (Which he changed to they are innocent). He told himself, they do not know how things had to be done, they are doing it intentionally (Which he changed to it’s ok, no one would do mistake intentionally). He also told himself that people are insulting him by not listening to him or not following the instructions (Which he changed to people love him and they are doing their best)
Gradually, he started staying more peaceful and loving. He started changing the conversation inside himself to a loving and positive one.
In another scenario, a gentleman who was very depressed, changed his conversation from no one loves me, I do not have any purpose in life, everyone is using me to I love myself and I care. Everyone loves me and expresses in different ways. We all respect each other and gradually he could come out of that depression. He started saying such things after a relationship failure but one relationship doies not define all the relationships and everyone.
Be aware of the conversation inside yourself. Do not let it go freely in a negative direction. Let it be positive and loving. Very soon it will start defining who you are.
