She was married for 10 years and she did everything to keep her husband’s family happy. She never did anything as per her own and followed everyone’s decision. If she had to take any decision, she always took everyone’s permission. However, she always heard that she was not happy serving her husband’s family. She did not want to align with them and many thins like that. Finally when she got tired of all this, she said that now onward I would do what I would feel like. I have heard all kind of nuisance despite of the fact that I have done everything I could. I have held best of intentions for everyone and sill I have to give justifications for my intentions. he had been feeling hurt for years but today she reached to a point where she could no longer take it. She said that I accept everyone would think the way he/she wants to think and I have no control over that. It’s a futile effort to expect people to be happy with me. I would do what I like. She was further crying over the fact that I have wasted 10 years of my life in trying to keep people happy.
This is one common scenario in every household in India.
In another one, there was a gentleman who was very submissive in nature and he always followed everyone. Because he wanted everyone to be happy and give him approval and because of that he could never do what he wanted. He always followed what everyone said. On the contrary, his brother always took own decision. He did get scolded and no one called him an obedient and sincere son. However, after many failures and trying many things on his own he was able to set up a successful business. Now everyone was appreciating him and started putting down the first one saying he never had guts to do anything. He was hurt that all his life he made an effort to keep everyone happy in the family and now everyone is saying he never had guts.
We shall not hurt anyone but we are not responsible others happiness. People become happy with their own decision to be happy. More we do things at the cost of self, more we sacrifice own happiness and this was somewhere everyone is doing things. Are we creating a culture where no one is happy?
Why can’t leave behind the expectation that people should be as per our expectation?
Why can’t we stop pressurizing people with emotions?
Why can;t we give freedom?
Let it be a free world. Do what you like and take responsibilities of actions. No lies. No pretense. Do things because you desire them. No need to give justification for what you desire. Be happy and be free.
