I have a friend and we used to talk daily in college. We used to have so many things to talk about. Finally we completed the college and we got busy with our lives. We started talking occasionally and we did not have much to share. Whenever we talked, we rarely had a good conversation. We did not know what was happening in each other’s lives. Gradually we lost touch with each other. After 10 years we met again and the old friendship blossomed again. We started talking daily and meeting regularly. But then again due to work, we could not continue for long. After so many years, we love each other, like spending time with each other but we do not know much about each other. Infact we both have changed as a person and we have no idea about the other person. But isn’t that true for everyone! We all like to spend time with self, we love self but we forget who we are. We forget what all we can do. We forget when we have been in pain. We forget to hold own hand. Infact when we need ownself, we are never there. The result is we start stressing out. We live with less strength. We look upto others for strength and mostly we do not get that and then we become further weak. A girl who had very short temper was crying badly because it was affecting her relation with her husband. He had started spending more time outside home. She was scared that he might get into affair like this. Her pain increased when she thought that she was never like this. She was a happy person and very rarely she felt angry. Everyone called her sunshine. But when things started changing she never realized. I asked her to spend atleast half an hour with herself everyday and she said that with house work and kids, she has no time. We started bargaining for time and she could not even agree for fifteen minutes. She wanted a solution but was not ready to do anything. Finally to save herself and her marriage, agreed to do as I asked as she was not left with any option. She would take out time for a walk, where she would talk to herself, ask herself if few things mattered which have been bothering her, she would tell herself nice things and many things. After one month, she was ready for some meditation and finally she could see herself releasing temper and working on her relationship. Now she could support her husband and kids more. Earlier she used to feel she had no time, but now she had more time. Her day went by very smoothly. She asked the reason:
Here are few things:
1. If we keep working without taking a break to fill up our souls, we become weak because we are not this body. Like this body needs nourishment, soul also needs nourishment. Spending time with self nourishes soul. It is like you use your mobile without charging and eventually battery would die. If you charge it regularly then you can continue using it everyday without problem. Similarly, if we charge up our souls, we can continue everyday.
2. Instead of telling bad things to yourself like he said this, he did this to me, what if this happens etc, start telling good things to yourself like I am kind, I help people, people help me, everyone loves me, everyone is nice, I love myself, it is a beautiful life, I have everything, I am grateful for my life and everyone can write own affirmations.
When we provide positive food to mind our mind starts turning positive. We need to do that everyday regularly like we eat food multiple times a day.
Stand in front of the mirror, look into own eyes and tell all the nice things like I am happy, I am love, I am good, everyone is good, I receive love etc.
Stay happy, stay in love.
