He was married for 10 years and he had a very controlling wife. She would control even what he was watching on TV. He could not watch movie of his choice, he could not even talk to his children alone, he could not talk to his colleagues from home. She would not let any of his relatives to come home. She was extra authoritative on servants and that’s why they did not stay much in their service. So she would make him clean home and dishes. He was feeling miserable and every time he would go to some uncle, grand dad, aunt complaining about his wife. They tried intervening but things would go back to zero in few days. He wondered what’s the solution. His father told him, he can’t take a divorce because he had two children.
Our life is like a cricket ground. Often we watch it like a spectator. We keep commenting on our lives and blame others for not playing well. But in reality, the real player has been missing and that’s why the game had been so irksome. So he was depending on everyone to play on his behalf and manage his wife.Because they did not play as per him, so he had all the complains against them also for their lack of support in his life. He finally decided one day to take professional help. When he came, I only had to ask him what’s your role in life. What have you done about your life. He asked for two days and came back and said that I want to take a stand for myself. He went home and did not follow any order. His wife was surprised. If she tried shouting at him, he told her that don’t shout at me. She was surprised with his determination and calmness. HE shared that from inside he was scared but he was determined to face her. He released the fear of fight and wondered why did he fear. What could she do. He did not let her shout at servants, took children out spent time with them and if she had to talk, she had to ask him. He took a decision that I would not let her bully me. I will take my own decision.
No one would come in our lives. We need to stand up and bring that change. Do whatever you can do and take a stand. Don’t be afraid of standing alone. If you will be firm, these people will follow. But in your life you are the hero and if hero is missing, life would be astrayed. So get your hero back!
