So many times, people come to me because they have no one to talk to. Even when they have a family, partner, friends.
When I was in college, I read Maslow’s hierarchy theory, which explains the basics levels of needs and motivation. From physical needs to spiritual needs. I feel there is one more need that is ignored. That is a need to share. We all have a need to share, we all have a need to talk. We want to share our emotions, we want to tell that how we have felt during tough times, we want someone to acknowledge that we are doing good and we are right. If we are happy, we want to share that happiness or else we lose the charm of happiness. We want people to be happy in our happiness. However, if we are unable to share how we have felt, we get suffocated inside and that energy gets piled up. It may turn into depression or may come in the form of anxiety or panic attacks or a lot of anger and eventually everything would create a bad effect on the physical body in the form of some ailment like hypertension, diabetes, cervical, knee pains, etc.
So what needs to be done?
Be emotionally available to your partner. Spend time with your partner. Let them talk. Do not judge when they talk.
Be emotionally available to your friends.
Be emotionally available to parents and children.
Do not judge them when they share. Do not pass opinionated comments. Try to understand them from their perspective and let them know that you understand their pain. Listen to them. Offer your patience. Just sharing itself is very healing because it would release negative energy.
Be kind in your words and body language. Do not be harsh in words.
