He was fuming with revenge and had not slept for many days. His brother had married his girl friend. He had connections with many high officials and bad side of the world too. He wanted to take revenge. He wanted to torture his brother and believed that it would torture his wife too eventually.
I asked him what would he get by taking revenge?
Would he get what he has lost?
If his purpose is that the other person should suffer, then he would anyway.
We need to look at what he is losing right now.
So holding anger is like holding burning coal in your hand waiting to throw at someone else. He would be burnt later on, but you are getting burnt right now.
You can’t rest
You can’t sleep
You might get high BP in future
You are damaging your body right now.
You are damaging your body for something which Universe anyway has to do. You not only will damage your body but also will invite many more repercussions in life in future. Revenge is an attribute of weak. But forgiveness is an attribute of a strong person. It takes lots of strength to forgive.
Moreover, forgiveness does not mean the other person was not wrong. It simply means that it no longer hurts you.
So how should I forgive, simply saying this does not help.
Forgiveness is also a process where you take a decision to forgive. You tell everyday that I forgive him. Mind will start working accordingly. Hurt increase with time as we keep repeating such incidences in our mind. But when we start telling ourselves of forgiveness, it starts reducing and starts setting us free.
You can only be peaceful when you are free. Revenge will never set you free. It will increase hurt in long way. It will add guilt also.
