He was a very healthy well built successful businessman. He had been married for 15 years. However, he was facing relationship problems from the beginning. But now, it had reached a point where he could no longer take anything. He felt his wife was always busy with her lifestyle like cars, friends, shopping, parties, etc.
So he asked, how could he improve his relationship?
I asked him, what have you done for your relationship? He wondered what do we need to do for the relationship?
Well, how, have you maintained your health? Will you have a well-built body without doing anything? The answer is No. So every day, he goes to the Gym for at least 30 minutes and lifts weights and he goes for a run for 30 minutes. He wakes up really early to maintain his health. With age, he eats mostly fruits and simple food has started avoiding junk. Good, I like it, when people respect their bodies.
How did you become a successful businessman?
HE started from zero. Worked hard and he keeps working hard. He focused on every aspect and had a grand vision!
So what’s your vision for your relationship?
I want peace!
So this statement is coming from almost daily spats.
But what have you done to create peace?
I gave her everything she asked for. Car, driver, money!
And now, what’s the problem. You gave her everything, she is using everything. Did she ask for something else? Yes, sometimes, she asked to spend time with me. He started realizing and realized he never gave her time.
Now the big question! Can health or business be successful on their own without your presence? NO!
Then why do you think a relationship would be? It also needs its necessities like lots of love, communication, respect for each other, respect for each other’s emotions, looking after each other, appreciating each other, being there for each other, not only in the time of need but also every day, so that in the time of need we can look up to this person.
We also need to be ready to let go off the ego and say sorry! We need to seek forgiveness if we feel so!
He realized and started working on his relationship. Within one-year things changed and he realized that life was much more meaningful with a happy and loving relationship.
