She called up as she was crying. She said that she always keeps trying that she would not fight with her husband but ends up fighting. She said that she did not want to complain but she ended up having so many. Her marriage was crumbling and she did not know what to do.
Sometimes, we put in lots of efforts but we put them in the wrong direction. To stop herself from complaining, she first had to stop complaining inside. To create a better relationship, she had to replace her complains with gratitude and what all was good in there.
Similarly, one 20 years old guy had lots of complaints against his father and mother. When he was born, they had financial troubles (Many parents have struggled financially at that time) and they could not give him what he was expecting in comparison to other kids. He knew he was not fair as they gave what they had and now they were giving more but he could not over come those emotions and he always had fights with his parents.
So internally, he had to start reminding himself of what all they were doing good. Instead of focusing on what they could not do, he started telling himself that what kind of struggle they were going through at that time. More he though about their sacrifices, more he felt gratitude. More he saw improvement in his relationship.
We nurture everything in our lives with the feelings we have. That includes our work, our relationships, our health and everything else around us. Our feelings are the fuel for anything attached to us. With negative feelings, we are adding negative fuel which we start damaging things and with positive feelings like love and peace and gratitude, we add good fuel.
So nurture your relationships with the feelings of love. Most of the times we love but we feel negative due to certain reason. We need to keep bringing out that love.
