A mother called up. As per her, her 12 years old son was misbehaving with everyone. He was forcing them to buy good things and expensive things and if they do not he would shout at them.
So when she started opening up, she shared that for everything, earlier they used to buy things for him. She trained him to have things better than others. She trained him that servants are to be treated lesser than us. She trained him to be spoiled. She accepted and now she was regretting. She wondered what she could do now, to fix things. Well, first of all, she had to change her thought process. And it was not a small fix. It was a long term fix.
She had to start treating her servants with love and respect. If he treated them with disrespect, she did not let him have servant facility. Proving him that if he did not respect that, he would lose it. Then she had to stop feeling fear, and stop giving him the entitlement for everything. He had to work and earn everything. It was not a know. She told him that they also had to work to get that and he would have to do same. Even if it means starting own business. So shall i quit my studies and she turned into steel and said yes! So he did quit and lost one year of education trying to work. Initially he started this to threaten his parents but then he eventually learned everything. Everything and every effort was worth.
We all love our children. We all want them to have best. Best clothes, best education, best toys and everything else. But then who decides what is best?
Something which can help their ego right now or something which can make them better in future. Imagine two children. One is cleaning up things after playing, keeping the dishes in sink, talking to everyone with love and respect and the other one, leaving the clutter behind, leaving the dishes on table, shouting at everyone. Whom would you respect more? I guess the first one. But then, it has to be trained. it will not happen on its own. For that parents need to have a stricter role played with love rather than just buying things. We do not need to make our children feel special. We just need to make them feel equal. Raise your children, so that they can handle their own lives rather than just depending on others to fulfil their demands.
