Her husband met an old friend at the age of 50, and he felt happy about that. She felt that he started liking her. He kept telling her that this is not the age for any such thing. She started remaining sad and depressed. She presumed that as she was getting old, and she was a housewife, her husband had lost interest in her. Out of her ego, she did not talk to him properly. After a great effort when she talked she realized that it was as much as anyone meets an old friend. He loved her as she had been with him forever in everything and no one can take her place.
He was suffering financially and his wives family was very rich. He always felt that she looked down at him, and they would always have a fight over that. She kept explaining herself but in vain. She stopped visiting her parent’s house as well. He felt that she was drifting away because of his finances but in reality it was because of his behavior. When they started talking and they started sharing everything after three years of tussle, they could see each other’s perspective and after everything was solved, his finances also recovered. may it was waiting for his mindset to change.
We assume many things and those assumptions are based on our own experiences and perspective rather than reality. However, if we decide to talk and discuss with an open mind rather than already holding a decision in mind, we will see that those were just assumptions and not facts.
Keep talking. keep communicating. Keep discussing. Even with your children. Never assume. You can create a better and cleaner relationship, if you get into the habit of talking.
